Category: ADD

Not Flawed (May 8, 2023)

The one piece of advice that I would give my 20-year-old self is to learn to love your space despite your circumstances. As I mentioned in my recent podcast on May 7 of 2023 that I didn’t love my space.

It didn’t help ADHD/ADD was affecting my organizational skills. People made judgments saying I was lazy, and I didn’t care. Dealing with RA (rheumatoid arthritis) flared up that almost crippled me. So, I had a lot of resentment towards my space because I thought there was a major flaw with me.

The never-ending cycle of purging items, which I thought was cleaning. Then in a few weeks, the cluttered would return, adding to my resentment.

I didn’t understand was how the RA was impacting my life during a flare-up. Just doing the necessary chores, that was it. What I needed in those times was help and compassion.

Instead, I blamed myself for circumstances that were out of my control. Resentment continued to build towards my space as hopelessness settled in.

I wasn’t flawed.

I had the wrong ideas about clutter and organization.

Then one day, I realized that people who had organized homes and kept them maintained; actually, loved the space that they lived in and wanted the best for them and their families.

By loving my space that I admitted I deserved a clean, welcoming environment, and a peaceful sanctuary from the rest of the world. And that I needed to create a system that functioned for my lifestyle.

 

Sunday Talk with Alexandra Mars (May 7, 2023)

I will be discussing my recovery from my surgery, and how iron deficiency anemia, is affecting my life. In the second segment, I will be discussing organizational skills. And how ADHD affects those skills, and the impacts on my life.

https://anchor.fm/alexandra-mars1/episodes/Sunday-Talk-with-Alexandra-Mars-May-7–2023-e23jhsh

April 4, 2023

Yesterday, I discussed that I wanted to edit and outline articles. Unfortunately, I didn’t do any outlining. I edited 550 words in my writing session. Expanding my opening scene paragraph which was 120 words to 300 words I edited.

My goals for today are to outline and finish editing my chapter, which I think will be about 500 words edited when completed.

It was hard to get started after so many weeks away from my writing. The ADD wanted to run wild, I stayed in my chair to stay focused and took breaks. Once I reached hyper-focused, I started making good progress on my chapter.

Now, it is about to get back to a routine of writing and editing daily as I transition to a new normal after having my surgery.

It is vital to remember to give myself patience; as I put my new routines back in place, allowing myself time to adjust. It’s essential to keep my expectations in reality. I don’t become overwhelmed with all these changes.

Taking just things day by day. Self-care is crucial.

Feb 3, 2023

I’m feeling better physically, allowing my body to rest.

I’m feeling better physically, allowing my body to rest. My voice isn’t ready to do a podcast, I’m hoping maybe next week. I had surgery earlier in the week, and unfortunately, I couldn’t be put under safely. So my doctors canceled my surgery while I was on the operating table.

The ADD is kicking in big time when I get bored, I’m craving stimulation. My mind wants to do something, but my body is like nope it is not going to happen. Once I feel strong enough, I will get back into my routine. That will help.

I would like to work on composing some music 🎵 or do a little editing this weekend. It is still hard to sit in a chair for a long period of time. I do have some books I want to read that are on my reading list.

Have a great weekend!

Jan 5, 2023

My goals for today.

Yesterday, I did some editing, and I worked on one of my writing projects. Today, I want to edit and rewrite my manuscript. My goal is to edit 500 – 1000 words.

Jan 4, 2023 (Podcast Shorts)

In this Podcast Shorts, I will discuss my New Year’s Resolutions. My podcast is under two minutes, I’m calling it Podcast Shorts. Here’s the link below:

https://anchor.fm/alexandra-mars1/episodes/Jan-2–2023-New-Years-Resolutions-e1t333c

Dec 26, 2022

Did I accomplish my goal​ of keeping Christmas Chaos away? Last week, I discussed my goal of preventing chaos in my kitchen by washing my dishes regularly.

Here’s the link below:

https://anchor.fm/alexandra-mars1/episodes/Dec-26–2022-e1sokfb

Did I accomplish my goal of keeping Christmas Chaos away? Last week, I discussed my goal of preventing chaos in my kitchen by washing my dishes regularly.

Yes, I did for the first week.

On Christmas weekend, it was bitter cold and blizzard conditions slammed into my area changing my Christmas plans. This year, I am blessed to have two Christmas celebrations. We had a nice Christmas dinner and enjoyed watching Christmas movies on Christmas Day. It wasn’t stressful and drama free.

Before Christmas weekend; it was a hectic week for my household. With a blizzard, running last minutes errands, me dealing with low iron, and extra appointments. It was chaotic. I found the strength to persevere.

By the end of the day, I was exhausted. When I looked at the counter, my dirty glasses taunted me. In ADD fashion. I ignored them. Oblivious to their existence. So, I chose to focus on working on a hot spot, the kitchen table. I sorted through items, and mail, and put things back in their designated places.

I had already decided if the dishes weren’t done by Friday. Friday was the deadline for the dirty dishes and the main priority that day.

Friday came along with the blizzard and there was nothing else for me to do. And so that morning, I decided to wash dishes. Because I didn’t want to wash a whole bunch of dishes on Christmas Eve.

Once I got the dishes all caught up, I was able to stay on top of the dishes during Christmas weekend. And that created a stress-free, drama-free environment. I enjoyed Christmas with my family which was wonderful. And today, waking up to a nice clean kitchen was a tremendous feeling.

Now, I’ll just stay on top of things, by staying in my routine with the dishes, when there’s a pile, and monitoring the hot zone, my kitchen table. the main celebration for Christmas is this weekend, which is New Year’s weekend.

How did you manage Christmas Chaos this year? I would love to read about it in the comment section below.

Dec 19, 2022

My goal is to enjoy Christmas and not get stressed out from the chaos of clutter. That is my plan.

Christmas Chaos…

My goal is to enjoy Christmas and not get stressed out from the chaos of clutter. That is my plan.

Christmas chaos is all the stress from extra activities that can produce chaos. Falling behind in routines and having clutter to build very quickly in hot zones, this time of year that can be overwhelming.

This time of year there are a lot more activities, like people getting together, holiday parties, and other events I find that create Christmas chaos. For me, it’s procrastinating on chores I need to get done to keep my home clean and organized.

This year I’m trying something new, I am prioritizing the kitchen by keeping it clean and free of clutter to the best of my ability. So I’m making sure the hot zones like the kitchen table don’t have massive clutter buildup of junk mail and bills. And the other items that need to be put back in their designated place.

My task on my list is keeping up with the dishes. I don’t want a huge pile of dirty dishes on Christmas Eve to wash. So it is my main priority this week is to keep my dirty dishes from piling up.

What are you doing to avoid the Christmas Chaos this year?

I would love to hear your thoughts, so leave a comment below,

Merry Christmas!