July 27, 2021

Here’s the link if you would like to listen:

https://anchor.fm/alexandra-mars1/episodes/July-27–2021-e152ldg

Today, I would like to discuss why I’m losing weight. A couple of weeks ago, I saw my reflection in the mirror. I didn’t like what I saw. The blame is on me for letting myself go.

Having rheumatoid arthritis makes it harder to lose weight for different reasons. For me, it is money and mobility issues. I don’t have the extra funds to join a gym. Because of the joint damage, my mobility is limited, and I need to be careful how much I can push my body. Now, living in a world dealing with Covid, so, I’m avoiding crowds.

So, I plugged in my WII video game system and started playing some sports games, but soon realized that I needed more exercise games for my lower body. I found and brought a WII Fit Plus at a good deal. And I love it! 

When I mentioned to other people; I’m trying to lose a few pounds, and their reply is I don’t need to lose weight. The clothes that I wear hide my extra pounds and maybe people think I don’t need to lose any weight. That is not the case at all.

I have been thinking about that statement lately. I wanted to ask others: don’t I deserve a healthy body to the best of my ability? Do you realize I am on a quest to save my joints? Just because I have RA, and why can’t I look attractive?

Yes, I deserve to have a healthy body that my circumstances allow. By losing weight and watching my calorie intake, I will lower my high blood pressure, reducing my chances of developing diabetes, reducing my asthma symptoms, and improving my quality of life.

By exercising, I am saving my joints by reducing my weight. The extra weight causes more stress on my joints, preventing the normal wear and tear, and more inflammation produce throughout my body. By losing, weight will reduce the stiffness and soreness in the mornings during the winter months.

Look, I know what my body looks like, and I know how I move because of the limited mobility. Just because I have RA doesn’t mean that I am broken. I want to present my best self to the world. Attractiveness means to me by looking my best and feeling great about myself.

When someone tells me I don’t need to lose weight, that person is telling me my life has no value because I don’t meet society’s expectations. 

I should accept it and move on.

I am an intelligent, problem-solver, and creative person that brings value to this world!

It is time for society to stop devaluing people with disabilities and start seeing us for who we are as strong and intelligent individuals!

The Forgotten Hero

Here’s the link if you would like listen below:

https://anchor.fm/alexandra-mars1/episodes/The-forgotten-hero-e1347h4

Who is a hero?

Well, we normally think of a hero with powers or advanced technology saving the world, or we think about first responders saving people’s lives by putting his own life in danger. Soldiers come who sacrifice everything to protect our country.

What about the forgotten hero?

Who is this hero?

It is the man who goes to the job that he hates to provide for his family.

It is the man that takes the time to play or read with his children instead of watching tv.

It is the man that passes his knowledge and skills to his children.

It is the man that makes sure that his children are protected against any threat.

That man is a father.

Happy Father’s Day!

April 16, 2021

Last week was a busy week. I hardly didn’t do any writing at all. Because I was taking care of household chores that I was behind on and getting my space ready for my new desk chair. I ordered it online, and they delivered it to my home early last week. Then I was waiting for my friend to put it together over the weekend.

The arrival of my new chair disrupted my schedule; my back was feeling better, and I worked on overdue chores and organized my space. That made me think about clutter and Attention Deficit Disorder.

I have Attention Deficit Disorder; it is difficult for me to get rid of unwanted items. It seems my mind isn’t wired to stay organized, but I can train my mind and learn to stick with a pattern of behavior.

I have developed a philosophy has helped me get rid of things I no longer need. Perhaps my philosophy can help people with ADD struggling with items they no longer need or want. It can overwhelm for someone like me with ADD to face those decisions about my belongings.

My first tip is my philosophy that I use; I tell myself by donating my unwanted item to charity to allow someone else the opportunity to have new items. I’m providing a need to others who want my things.

My second tip: I’ve discovered dealing with unwanted belongings I no longer need is already deciding ahead of time about a particular item.

For example, my old office chair, since buying a new chair, I no longer needed it. I had designated my old chair would be a donation. My friend asked me about it and said that he knew someone who could use it. I gave the chair to my friend. I had already decided earlier about the chair, and it was easy for me to let it go.

Deciding in advance about unwanted items provides me with less stress and anxiety, preventing me from being overwhelmed.

My third tip: when I clean and get my space in order, I listen to the experts to find a place for my belongings that I want to keep.

It provides my mind the ability to think about putting my items back once I’m finished using them, and it brings me peace by keeping my space clean and clutter-free.

My fourth tip: I allow myself enough time to complete my cleaning and be realistic about what I can get done in that amount of time.

That is my philosophy. If you have ADD and struggle with clutter, you’re not alone; for some of us, it is problematic to stay organized. By creating your philosophy and changing your behavior pattern, you can live an organized life and be clutter-free. If you quit your routine, just began where you left off.

Remember, never give up.